Addiction causes many issues to rise to the surface, including codependency. Relationships take work. Even when they’re healthy and happy, partnerships require communication and sacrifice from all parties involved. A willingness to compromise is key. Often communication and compromise go out the window. There are ways to beat the codependency circle and detach (with love) from someone who has addiction while still supporting their journey to recovery.
Cycle of Codependency
When a person is locked inside addiction, struggling to break free, codependency issues usually arise. Often loved ones of the person with addiction have no idea they are codependent until it has gone too far and they cannot turn back. It is not hard to imagine how quickly things can go awry in an otherwise happy relationship. Perhaps there are excuses for lack of work, forgetting important dates or activities like school pick-up or missed appointments. Soon, the spouse of a person dealing with addiction may find themselves taking their loved one to pick up substances so they are ‘safe.’
Reality of Codependency
The challenge of recognizing codependent behavior is noticing it within oneself. The sober spouse may juggle everything or the parents take over paying bills to keep things ‘normal.’ meanwhile, the loved one is spiraling out of control. Unless a partner can identify issues on their own, unhealthy behavior continues to grow. The tension and resentment become so heavy, the only solution may be to break apart the family.