It is hard to admit when you are wrong. By apologizing and admitting you did something wrong makes you feel defeated and weak. The truth is that blaming others for your problems is the weakest solution to justifying your addiction and admitting you need help will prove your strength.
Blaming other people for your addiction means never saying sorry for the negative actions you took as a result to your addiction whether you lied, stole, physically or emotionally hurt someone. You could be blaming your entire childhood for your addiction like having addicts as parents or that you went through a lot of trauma that causes you to use drugs to cope. You could say that other people in your life, whether they live in your house or you see them at work, make you feel like you need to substance abuse to take your stress out on something. You could also blame your ex for breaking your heart and ruining your self-esteem so drugs will help you mend it.
People also tend to blame the environment they live in because it is hard for them to escape the temptation if drug dealers are all around them. People also use the excuse that addiction is a brain disease so the things you do cannot be helped. While it is true that drug addiction is a disease, it does not mean you let it get worse. Just like when you physically injure yourself, you are not going to let the injury become serious because you are afraid to see a doctor.
The dangers of spending all of your time blaming people for your actions is that this will keep you trapped even further in your addiction if you feel this is beyond your control. You are capable of controlling your actions and knowing what wrongs need to be right. Blaming others will make your actions seem justifiable for continued substance abuse and will benefit no one. Blame is just another excuse for poor behavior but will not help treat it. The first step in recovery is to stop blaming others for your mistakes and to take responsibility for your own life. If you use other people as an excuse, that will cause you to relapse by saying that someone made you use again. Making mistakes is the only way that we grow as people and acknowledging that is an important step.
Located in downtown Midland, The Springboard Center’s mission is to offer programs and services to treat alcohol and drug addiction treatment using an evidence based curriculum, 12 step programs, diet, nutrition, exercise, emotional, mental and spiritual development for a long recovery. For more information, please call us at 432-620-0255 as we are open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.